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Relationship Advice From A Single Girl #3: SELF LOVE!

   


             Assalaam alaikum my lovelies. This post in one of the hardest I can attempt to write. SELF LOVE . To love one's self.  That doesn't necessarily mean going to spas, getting pedicures and etcetera. In this case, I mean to love one's self despite all the irregularities and imperfections we have. 

 Let me even ask Myself this question. DO I LOVE MYSELF?  I barely do. Honestly the struggle is real. When I look in a full length mirror, I see my thighs that are too fat, my stomach that isn't flat enough, my arms too muscular, my face too acne prone, and the list goes on. 

 I don't think about the people that wish to be in my place. I have similar to suicidal thoughts sometimes. It's not even because of my body. It's because of people's perceptions of me. Maybe I'm too annoying, I'm too intimidating *trust me, you're not the only one shocked by this*, I'm not worth it and etc.

 It's strange how we like believing others over our selves. I stay away from any form of medication for the safety of myself. I've learnt to love myself. Scratch that, I'm learning to. Little by little. Hana Hana. Step by step. It's not an easy task. When you look in the mirror say "Wow. I look pretty/handsome." For my Muslim brothers and sisters "Ma sha Allah" is a praise giving to Allah when appreciating the beauty of his creations. Look in the mirror and say "Ma Sha Allah." 

 Tell yourself you are imperfect and your imperfections make you YOU. I've listened to my parents, my friends and ofcourse BTS. They all keep passing the same message which is to love my self, my imperfections, my SELF. It's your SELF not their self.

 Ask me what it is to love one's self. It's is simply being happy with whatever you are, however you look, whoever you are etc. And I quote to all the haters out there "You can't stop me loving my self" -BTS Idol. Simple. 

 I'm learning. Trust me I am. We all are. My lovelies, I'll try to always be here and to always love my self and so should you all. Love you❤❤❤ and Purple you💜💜💜. Allah hafeez and all the best today my lovelies. Until next time in sha Allah 💜😊.
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  1. She Speaks6 February 2020 at 22:12

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  2. She Speaks6 February 2020 at 22:16

    All doling has said is true, 'cause at the end of the day, you're the one you have to sleep with at night 💖💖💜

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