Relationship Advice From A Single Girl #2 : REBOUNDS!

Assalam alaikum. Hi guys. It's been a while and I thought why not continue with the relationship talk. One of my friends once told me that the best relationship advice comes from single people. That, my lovelies, is what motivated me to write this post. Any way this is post 2 of the relationship series and beware: My ideas might be biased based from the way I was raised, to my religion and just my way of viewing things as a person. My advice might most definitely not work for you but it won't hurt to read the point of view of others. 

Today's talk is about *drum roll please* Rebounds.
I as a person happen to experience crushes despite the fact that in a lot of cases I wish I didn't. Anyway, *at this point everyone can see that I use the word anyway too much😅* after being ignored and pushed away by one of my crushes/friends, a lot of people that happen to be my close friends said that I deserve better. And I quote " I wouldn't advice you to use advice given to you by people who don't get directly affected by your decisions in a certain matter but I won't advise you against it either." This is what one of my friend's told me.

So getting back to the story, when I got home, I called one of the boys I used to like before because I can't guarantee that I like him now. He also used to like me, but me being me rejected him and was over thinking it so he said he was over me but right now I think we are on the friends level. Now, he's on the phone and then I hear his voice and then I remember why I fell in like with him. Not "love" I repeat "like". 

After speaking to him and finding out he was busy, we agreed to text each other when less busy. As I think about it now, I realise that I'm looking for something to fill that void that was opened when *let's call my ex crush/current crush "R"* R rejected me and pushed me away. Now I think, what if I actually go past friendship with * let's call the second boy "T" *  T and realise that I don't really like him? How messed up is that? 

That, my lovelies is what is called a rebound.

Now, whether it's a girl or a boy, being a rebound is the most irritating/ annoying thing that could possibly happen to you. In most cases, it's like you or the person in question here is the second option. The plan B. Trust me I've been there. I honestly have never, and I mean never dated anyone but some one once wanted to use me as a rebound. Today is not the day to discuss that anyway... Moving on, I realised that I might be trying to use him as a rebound and I've decided that if he wants something serious between us * if he still likes me* then I will explain everything because I never want to use anyone as a rebound.


The main point of all the words I am spewing here is that, as painful as it is, think it through when you are going through heartbreak, rejection or a breakup. You honestly don't want to use some one as a rebound because it will hurt you both and you could lose that person forever. Remember, it will hurt the second party more because it will look like the person was your second option. You obviously wouldn't like that being done to you or anyone you cared for so I urge you to please take my advice for this seriously. If in the end, you can't figure it out, talk with the second party. In this case, it might help you a great deal. I repeat "might". This is probably one of my only advices that I can guarantee is partly sane💔😅. 

Thank you so much for reading this blog post. Shukran❤💜. Remember I purple youuuu💜💜💜❤. Allah hafeez my lovelies. Until my next post bye!!!😊❤💜🎉🌚😅.